Hey luvies,

First of all, I'm totally hyped that it is the greatest month of the year! Yeah, okay, i know a bunch of y'all are dreading the snow, but seriously! we used to get snow before halloween so why the freakout about getting it at christmas? we're supposed to have gads of snow for christmas or the song would be "i'm dreaming of a warm christmas" instead of a white christmas.
there reason why I absolutely love december because it is the time of my birthday and christmas and lots of fun with friends and family. i admit i'm not looking forward to this birthday per se considering i may be in the city alone rather than home with my fam, but either way my friends are usually busy during the week which is a drag.
Speaking of birthdays, check out my book giveaway on my blog! i'm doing a contest for some books to be presented to a couple lucky winners later this month, as well as a surprise bonus gift that i am crocheting. i liked the idea of a bonus prize, but i'm broke and not that handy at making things unless it is crocheted. but yea, i had to to a giveaway because this is the season of giving after all!

The only downside -okay there are actually two, but i'll get to the other in a moment- is that you get invited to parties or get-togethers or open houses, and are quite often expected to bring a date... which i never have. well, not a real date since i don't hesitate to bring whichever friend(s) happen to be free that day since i hate going to these things by myself since i dislike forcing myself onto other people to entertain me. more than once though i've been asked questions: if i bring a guy "oh is this your new boyfriend?" (no, so thanks for rubbing it in) or "and who is this?" if i bring a girl (no, you did not miss the rumor that i'm out of the closet, this is just my bff). i really don't have the nerve to walk up to strange guys and ask them out, even to a random party, which may be part of the problem of dating: the very idea of it is somewhat frightening to me.
now the second downside to this month is for this year specifically: i didn't get the job. i thought the interview went so well for the editorial assistant position and was sure i would get it right up to wednesday afternoon. then i started to get the feeling that i wasn't going to get it, and sure enough the next day i got an email saying they went with someone else. i emailed back asking what it is i need to work on in order to get a job and i was told there were other people more experienced in editing and have had more interaction with authors. well, what the heck?! this is an entry level position and i'm already supposed to have a lot of experience? i just graduated this year for pete's sake!
i wish i knew why i can't even get a freaking job of any kind. admittedly i kept it limited to publishing companies and bookstores, but you would think someone would want to hire me. i think i am going to have to give in and apply to places like grocery stores, video rentals, and pharmacies *wince* i hate large and busy stores but i guess i'll have to suck it up. i will have to look into literary agencies as well, maybe i'll have some luck there.
my national novel writing month efforts stopped about the middle of last month. first, because i was so busy doing the two tests for harlequin and the one test for another publishing company (which i haven't heard back from, but that may be due to the fact i was two weeks later with returning the test *bah*), and then because i was stressing for various reasons. not only about getting the job, but because my great-grandmother had a heart attack and was sent to the hospital. she was doing better i kept getting told and the doctors were going to put in something called a stint/stent on the following monday... but died sunday.
i wasn't able to go to the funeral as it was back home and i was stuck up here. in a way i'm kind of glad because now i'll just remember her as she was last christmas rather than her death. i really wish she could have lived just a month longer to see another christmas with us, but she was doing pretty poorly last year. i guess it was expected that she wouldn't be here much longer, but you never really think about that until that time comes. i am forever putting off visiting relatives because it is rarely all that fun, but then something happens and i realize wow they've suddenly gotten old. i missed out on seeing a cousin before he died because i had a non-ending headache and the idea of a long drive made me feel nauseous. then he died a couple days before the weekend i planned to go see him. now i live with the thought that he might have died thinking i just couldn't bother to go.
this may sound horrible but i'm also glad i wasn't at the funeral for another reason... it turns out that a lot of the parents are now grandparents and were all talking about all of their little grandkiddies. my mum, who was one of the youngest mothers, is now the one who doesn't have little ones to spoil. mum joined the conversation by saying she was waiting on getting the grandkids from my bro and s-i-l. i'm not sure if she was there or if mum told her later, but my s-i-l replied by telling my mum that she and my bro decided "a long time ago" that they weren't having kids. oh, a looong time ago? that's odd since when they got married they planned to have kids between the 7-10 year point in their marriage. or how about the fact that this past year my brother told my mum he wasn't ready for kids yet though s-i-l was?
it makes me wonder what happened and my imagination is running wild. i guess the obvious is that they just changed their mind, but surely there is a reason behind it. did they lie in the beginning to each other thinking they were willing to do what it takes to get married? or did they lie to everyone else knowing that my mum wants grandkids and didn't want to tell her? (this seemsleast likely because i doubt they care enough about my mum to put her feelings into consideration). do they feel they don't want the added expense of kids now or ever? did they realize that a cat and dog were more than enough responsibility? or, did they discover that they can't have kids, that one or both of them is infertile?
i am kind of on the fence about this. i know i always said i dreaded to find out what their kids would be like since i find both of them to be rather self-centered people, but i'm a little disappointed to know that i'll never have nieces or nephews. it now makes me wonder if my dad ever felt this way about his sister (she and her husband have pets rather than kids), but at least mum has gads of sisters who've had children. i guess all i can do is hope that i marry into a larger family.
speaking of marrying, i'm still lamentably single without a prospect in sight. i don't want to get married right now or anything, as i dont even have a job and i'd like to be financially stable. however, i would like to be married when i'm 30ish, so i'd really like to have a significant other sometime soon... like before spring. i know i can be pretty selfish with my time -i like having time to myself just to read or write- and i always have something on the go (be it projects or plans), but if i loved someone i'd definitely make time for them, right? when you really care you want to be with that person a lot is what i always assumed, which is generally how i figured out when a crush was not the guy for me since they are rather easily forgettable *L0L*
i was never the type to have the goal to marry young -like a bunch of my cousins have done- though i did like the idea of being a younger mum (though not as young as my mum was *ugh*). now i am finished with my schooling and i'm ready to start settling down with someone. so, yeah, i'd like to get married in a couple years and have at least one kid in the five years after that. is that too much to ask for? i am now starting to get that annoying fear i will never find someone i truly care about and will either settle for less than what i want or not settle and be alone for life. i am not sure which will be worse, knowing that the person you're with isn't what you truly wanted and possibly hurting the relationship or becoming a bitter old lady who can't even own a bunch of cats because she's allergic to them?
SUMR
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