January 4, 2013

• Upset Results

  So you may be wondering what happened after the tiff I had last week due to unexpected news from the parentals. We finally sat down and talked about it, I explained how their springing that on me was upsetting and how it would effect the budget I had planned out almost a year ago. For some reason my mother still accuses me of being a spendthrift even though I rarely buy anything since graduating from university. At first I had a school loan to pay off, then saving up for my graduate studies, and now I'm saving for my own place and dream trip. Most of my clothes are hand-me-downs, a lot of my books and movies are borrowed from the library or given as gifts, I rarely go out for coffee or meals, and the only time I go to the cinema is when I have a gift certificate... nearly all my money has been going towards my education or into savings!

  We went over the expenses trying to find ways that I could save more money --only one was discovered which saves me a big ol' whopping five bucks-- proving that my budgeting schedule was pretty good, and that their messing with it would essentially ruin my plans to move out and take my trip. Considering my mum saved up for years to take her own dream vacation three years ago, telling me that my own desire to see Ireland as an unnecessary expenditure would have been hypocritical. They know I've been wanting to go since I was fifteen, that it had always been in my future plans, si if they said it was a worthless wish I think I may have ripped their heads off as it isn't their right to say such.

  Though my mum was the one to tell me about dad wanting to charge me rent, she's a bit wishy-washy about my moving out. Some days she thinks daughters should stay living with their parents until marriage, and other days she wants to take over my bedroom so she can turn it into a place for her to exercise --she's already saving up for a treadmill. She says that I shouldn't have to pay money towards rent until I get full-time hours, but I'm hoping they will be willing to wait until after I save up enough for a year's worth of rent first and then I can just move out instead.

  The result of our discussion is that I have an increase of chores, essentially taking over much of housework except cleaning kitchen appliances or the bathroom; buying any non-sharable groceries such as my cereal, work snacks, and personal items (which I had offered to pay for when I moved back, but was declined); putting $2-5 in a jar whenever I take the car in town (out of town is $50); running errands when asked; and the funds I've already been giving dad every month. I find this much more reasonable than forking over half my pay cheque every month.

  SUMR

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