February 23, 2012

• Boys are Stoopid

  Okay, maybe not all boys are stupid since y'all of the male persuasion who read my blog are obviously smart and of good taste I thank you very much for your loyalty and general awesomeness. 

  No, it just seems that I am having no better luck with online dating than any of my other friends. I met a boy, hoped to spend more time with the boy, and then don't hear from said boy again. I thought he'd be an awesome friend, and possibly had the potential to be something more if the chemistry was there.

  Things seemed to be going great. We emailed nearly every day and instant messaged each other for hours at a time. We hung out for hours and he said he wanted to meet up again. We texted a bit when I was road-tripping with my cousin and a little the next day. Then I didn't hear so much as a word from him for nearly a week, which is only concerning because we had been corresponding pretty much every day. I sent him an email yesterday morning, thinking that wasn't too invasive or pushy, and had hoped he might message me back at some point. I haven't seen him on IM, but I have seen him on the dating website. The thing that is troubling me is the fact that even though he's obviously online, he seems to also be obviously ignoring me. And not even so much as an "it's been nice", which is rather disappointing. 

  I know guys need their space -I need mine too!- so I tried not to be too "clingy" by frequently messaging him after meeting. One of my guy friends told me that being in contact every day with a girl feels suffocating unless he realized he can't go a day without talking to her, so I was trying to keep that in mind. I do keep in contact with my friends at least every other day or so ( @Karoline1982 and I probably text every day ), but since he doesn't know me that well yet I tried to keep initiating things at a minimum on my part. Was that the wrong thing to do? 

  I had been getting a bit bored by the site anyways, after just three weeks. I have been contemplating quitting it since the thrill of getting emails is totally gone and now a bit of a hindrance. It seems that the guys on the site expect to either get messages every day or meet quite quickly, and I cannot do either. I don't mind that some of them started dropping like flies, but it always seems that someone new takes their place. Yes, I am complaining that too many guys are emailing me *L0L* but that is because some of them obviously don't read my profile and cannot even use correct sentence structure. At first I emailed everyone, then I started sending my regrets to new people because I couldn't handle more correspondence, now I just ignore the ones that have boring profiles or emails and only talk to those with something to say. 

  I guess the next time someone pesters me about trying online dating when they find out I'm single, I can say "Yes, I've tried. It just didn't work out for me."

  SUMR

   

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