January 28, 2012

• Single-Alert

  I have noticed that whenever anyone finds out that I'm single, they ask if I've tried online dating. Why the heck is that ALWAYS the first response I get? I can't figure out if people are trying to be helpful or just think it wrong that a twenty-eight-year-old female does not have a significant other 

  First of all, why is it only online dating that is suggested? Quite frankly I think throwing a party and telling everyone to bring a friend who is single would be a much more fun way to meet people. Everyone is pseudo-vouched for because a friend of a friend usually isn't a serial killer, and even if no one clicks you can have a blast making new friends.

  Second, why does it matter to this other person that I am single? I am okay with being single, though I would like to be in a serious relationship within the next two years. If I am okay with my single status then so should they. Which brings me to...

  Third, what is wrong with being single? Giving that response make me think that there is still the thought that women are nothing if they are not in a relationship. I do not define myself by my having or not a boyfriend, and the very thought that I have "failed" at life because I don't, annoys the heck out of me. 

  With all that said, because I made it a new years resolution to be more active in the dating scene, I have finally joined a dating site... if only to say "yes, I have tried a dating site so shut the heck up", but nicely of course. I even took those huge and annoying "assessments" though that was mostly because I was curious and had nothing better to do with my afternoon.  It was not surprising in nearly every section indicated that I have "idiosyncrasies". Frankly I blame the fact that some of the questions aren't clear, and others were questions not yet relevant and thus I had to guess *rolls eyes* 

  And it didn't tell me anything I didn't already know about myself. Go figure. 

  SUMR

   

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